Get What You Want
When dating someone new who you are having sex with how do you bring up the topic of what you like or don’t like while having sex with them (hopefully without hurting the other person’s feelings)? How to do you get what you want?
May
19
May
01
How to Masturbate
Dear Emily,
Okay, this is a little embarrassing, but I can’t masturbate. There is no amount of touching myself that will turn me on. I have no problems with a partner stimulating me but when it comes to “special alone time” I’m SOL (shit out of luck). Now I’m in a long-distance relationship and I’m dying without the sex. I want to try a vibrator but I don’t know what kind of stimulation I like because I can’t masturbate. I don’t even know if a vibrator will help. What advice do you have for this situation?
Mar
12
Why does she feel objectified?
Dear Emily,
My girlfriend says that in the middle of having sex she starts to feel objectified. What do you suggest?
Mar
01
Do vibrators desensitize?
Dear Emily,
My girlfriend needs to use a vibrator to get off, even when she is on top. And oral just didn’t get her there. Is it possible that she’s too used to the vibrator and my manual touch just won’t do it?
Thanks!
Sam
Feb
22
Ask Emily- “How do we find someone for a threesome?”
Dear Emily,
Thank you so much for all of the hard work you put into the show! I listen religiously on my Stitcher app, which is ironic because it’s pretty much the only thing I’m religious about.
Anyway, my question is in regard to “finding a third”. I, a 23-year-old bi woman, and my boyfriend, a 25-year-old straight man, would like to spice things up a bit…
Feb
17
Ask Emily- “Help. I’m afraid of sex!”
Dear Emily,
So my issue is I am afraid of sex! I was raised to believe that sex before marriage is a TERRIBLE sin, and I’m stuck with associating sex, in general, with feelings of shame and guilt. My parents have made sex out to be a perversion and their reactions to my older siblings having sex before marriage were extremely harsh!
Feb
09
How do I approach a woman?
Dear Emily,
Any advice for guys who are afraid to ask women out, concerned that they might seem out of line, too forward… Growing up in SF during the seventies was not great for a men’s sense of masculine self, hearing what “pigs” men are. I choke all the time, even when I know a woman is into me…
Jan
26
Gym Sex
Dear Emily,
I have an open marriage and my husband allows me to sleep with other men. I now have my eye on a seemingly unattainable drop dead gorgeous, wonderfully fit guy from my crossfit classes. I can’t help but fantasize about tracing the contours of his abs with my tongue when he takes off his shirt during our workouts.
Jan
24
How do I use a vibrator?
Dear Emily,
I bought the Magic Wand and I’m actually questioning myself! Am I doing this right? It’s not working for me.
Thanks!
Monica
Jan
19
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Dear Emily,
I’ve been with my partner for about four months. At the beginning of our relationship, things were great as usually they are. He thought I was perfect, and I felt the same, but I would pick at him to keep my wall up after so many rough break ups and that fear he would do the same…
